It’s something that can either be there or not. And here’s where the big difference lies: love has many depths and layers to it while lust doesn’t. But how does that help you in determining whether your relationship is built on love or lust? Here are a few signs you can be on the lookout for:

1. YOUR PARTNER IS TAKING THINGS REALLY FAST IN THE RELATIONSHIP.

This is the biggest telltale sign that it’s all about lust in your relationship. You have to know that real love isn’t something that is formed in a matter of seconds. Love is always something that has to be built over time. Love is like a fine wine; it gets better with age. And you really have to give it the time to grow and come into its own. Love can’t be instantaneous.

2. YOU’RE GETTING SORE FROM ALL OF THE SEX.

You know that you’re having TOO MUCH sex when you’re getting physically sore from it. It’s as if your sex is getting even more intense than your actual workouts at the gym. You don’t want the sex to be taking away from the other aspects of your life. You only want sex to be enriching your relationship; you don’t want it to be totally encompassing it.