4. Over-Reliance on External Validation

A relationship should primarily fulfill the emotional and companionship needs of the partners involved. However, when there’s an over-reliance on external validation, it might indicate underlying issues within the relationship itself. Here’s how this concern can manifest:

4.1. Seeking Approval from Others

While it’s natural to want our loved ones to support our relationships, an excessive need for friends or family to validate the relationship’s worth can be a red flag. This need for external approval might suggest that you are unsure about the relationship’s value and are looking for reassurance from others to compensate for doubts or insecurities. This dependence on external validation can detract from the authenticity of the partnership, making it difficult to make decisions or assess the relationship’s health independently. It may signal a lack of confidence in the relationship or in one’s own judgment about what is fulfilling and right.

4.2. Social Media as a Relationship Crutch

In today’s digital age, social media plays a significant role in how relationships are perceived externally. Using social media to consistently portray an idealized version of your relationship can be a sign of seeking validation from a broader audience. While sharing happy moments is normal, an overemphasis on curating a perfect image can indicate discomfort with the reality of the relationship. This behavior might be an attempt to convince oneself and others that the relationship is more successful or happier than it actually is. Relying on social media in this way can prevent genuine connection and addressing of issues that may exist within the relationship.