8 Major Signs You’re His Backup Plan

Part 2: Behavioral Signs

Limited Availability

  • The Priority Puzzle: If finding time for you always seems to be an afterthought, it’s a sign you’re not a priority. His availability should not consistently be limited to his convenience.
  • Analyzing His Time Management: A closer look at how he allocates his time can reveal his true priorities. If he’s always busy or can only see you at odd hours, it might mean you’re filling gaps rather than being a central part of his life.

Secretive Social Life

  • The Hidden Friends and Outings: Keeping his social life a secret, or you finding out about his outings after the fact, suggests he’s not fully integrating you into his life. This secrecy can be a strategy to maintain distance.
  • Social Media Silence: In the digital age, a reluctance to acknowledge or include you in his social media can be telling. If you’re absent from his posts or he’s hesitant to appear in yours, it might indicate he’s keeping his options open.

Last-Minute Plans

  • The Convenience Factor: Consistently being contacted only when it’s convenient for him, especially for last-minute plans, is a red flag. It suggests you’re a backup option when his other plans fall through.
  • Spontaneity or Second Choice: While spontaneity can be a positive aspect of a relationship, if you notice a pattern of only being sought out last minute, it’s essential to distinguish whether you’re genuinely a spontaneous adventure or simply a second choice.
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